She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.Proverbs 31:12 NKJV
How many married women can say they do good to their husbands all the time? My guess is it is not many. Sometimes its hard to do good isn’t it? And it’s especially challenging when we are hungry, angry, lonely or tired. However, those things are all items we can take care of we should recognize them as factors robbing our ability to do good.
The Bible teaches us to continue doing good without growing weary for at the appropriate time we will reap if we don’t lose heart (Galatians 6:9). So we are called to guard against that which would make us not do good things. One way to stay guarded is to keep our thoughts fixed on what is true, pure, right, just, honorable and praiseworthy (Philippians 4:8).
Here is a practical example. When we are tempted to grumble and complain about something our husbands did or didn’t do, said or didn’t say, we are called to exercise the ninth gift of the Spirit – self-control. We do this by switching our minds away from complaining and remember all the good. The Bible says do everything without grumbling or complaining, and instead give thanks for this is God’s will for you every day (Philippians 2:13-15).
Did you notice today’s verse says “all the days of her life?” This verse supports married-for-life idea. Take the good with the bad, in sickness and in health, in poverty and in riches, employed or unemployed and stand with your husband. Please notice this verse doesn’t say it is an easy task. It merely confirms God’s heart with regards to hating divorce as Malachi 2:16 says.
All the way through in the Bible we are told to overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21, Matthew 5:42-44, Psalm 34:14, Proverbs 13:21, Isaiah 7:15, Jeremiah 13:23, Amos 5:14, Luke 6:35, 1 Peter 3:11). Doing good to our husbands is one way we do that. But why do good? Why does good overcome evil? It is because the only way to stop the cycle of evil is by countering with what is good and right. If someone is constantly throwing bitter words towards you and you respond with only kind, gentle and loving words back, the bitter person will eventually cease in their attack. If they can’t spin you out of control with their words, they will move on to other people or things. The result is evil is foiled in that situation. While the world and society may advise us to “dump the loser,” God calls us to a greater purpose of overcoming evil by doing good to your man all the days of your life.
What do you think? Are you doing good to your husband? If not, why? Ask God to show you ways to love your husband and do good to him.
Lord Jesus, Your word is so clear if only we would listen and apply Your teaching. Help us have the faith, strength, trust and courage to do what You have called us to do. In Your precious name we want to overcome evil by doing good this day. Amen.